Five Ways to Be Your Best Self During A Divorce
- Seek Objective feedback. Someone who doesn’t know you, your partner, your family, or your children, can be much more objective with you about your choices and behavior. A good therapist will support you and will be understanding.
- Get support from friends who don’t paint your ex as “all bad.” Look for people who can be supportive of you, can listen as you cry or get angry, yet don’t undercut what was, for you, an important life decision.
- Choose an attorney whose style fits the kind of divorce you want. One of the shocking things about divorce is having a new person in your life who’s suddenly become someone your counting on, who knows intimate details about you, and whose decisions can alter your life.
- Take divorce breaks. This doesn’t mean to deny that your divorce is occurring. But it can become all you talk about with others. Start to become accustomed to not having a partner and begin creating a life of your own.
- Realize and accept that you can learn from failure and change for the better. Divorce can feel like failure. That doesn’t feel good, its not warm and cuddly. It can hurt for a long time. But if you learn from it, it can do you a world of good.
- Know that often what is hardest is watching your children cope. They’re dealing with the consequences of living out the rest of their lives influenced by a choice that was not theirs.
